It’s hard for most of us to say goodbye, especially when knowing we won’t see family or friends for a while, whether days or weeks or months. Toward the end of my father’s life his eyes filled with tears when my visits ended and I headed back to Chicago with my children, his grandchildren. He probably thought he was saying goodbye for the last time for a couple of years before he died, for he had had a series of heart attacks which grew more severe with each event.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Good-bye
THE VISIT'S OVER
It’s hard for most of us to say goodbye, especially when knowing we won’t see family or friends for a while, whether days or weeks or months. Toward the end of my father’s life his eyes filled with tears when my visits ended and I headed back to Chicago with my children, his grandchildren. He probably thought he was saying goodbye for the last time for a couple of years before he died, for he had had a series of heart attacks which grew more severe with each event.
It’s hard for most of us to say goodbye, especially when knowing we won’t see family or friends for a while, whether days or weeks or months. Toward the end of my father’s life his eyes filled with tears when my visits ended and I headed back to Chicago with my children, his grandchildren. He probably thought he was saying goodbye for the last time for a couple of years before he died, for he had had a series of heart attacks which grew more severe with each event.
When you’re young it doesn’t
usually occur to you that, given life’s vicissitudes, you might never meet
again. Saying goodbye is little more traumatic than turning off the TV. In
fact, as we become more mobile, partings become commonplace. And maybe we get
better with practice.
Perhaps it’s my age that
makes parting teary-eyed, not that I think every goodbye is the last one. But
visits with my sons remind me of how little I now have them in my life. Time
passes and they have families, careers, and homes, and we’re no longer in daily
touch. While I’m away from them, living my own life, I don’t notice this so
much. Then we visit. And invariably we have a great time together. But then I
leave or they leave, and I’m painfully aware that time will pass while we’re
living our separate lives.
I’d just as soon skip
saying goodbye. In fact, I’d prefer to sneak out in the middle of the night
without waking anybody. If I can just close that door and go back to my
routine, I won’t have to think so much. On the other hand, if one of them left
without saying goodbye, I’d wonder if I’d offended him. Is there no easy way to
say goodbye?
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