Monday, June 24, 2013
Culture Forms Opinion
We Are What People Tell Us We Are
You think an actor such as
Gwyneth Paltrow or Brad Pitt is attractive? Do you think that’s a value you
arrived at on your own? The idea of beautiful is not mine or yours. That idea
is a heritage no less than the color of our skin or hair. It’s a composite of
what our predecessors accepted and what our current culture tells us. And as
you may guess, ideas change, not because of our individual sensibilities, but
through a consensus of opinion over time. Billboards, magazines, computers, and
television are redefining beauty, and we adopt their opinion and think it’s our
own.
In like manner, do you
think you own your ideas of successful, talented, needy, poor? These values don’t
come from inside us. They are foisted on us by not only our history, but our
neighbors, our church, our country, and even our family.
Are you intelligent? Are
you unattractive? Only if the opinion of others says you are. You have no
control over that opinion. Are you tall? Fat? You accept “tall” and “fat” based
not on a judgment you’ve made, rather it’s the “collective” standard that
applies. And if you insist on defining yourself contrary to “collective”
standards, you may end up on a psychiatrist’s couch. Then, regardless of the
capabilities of your mind, you will be maladjusted. Trying to be somebody other
than what people tell us we are brings on problems for us, not our environment.
Are you happy? This concept
too is defined and controlled by our “collective” existence. Depressed? It’s
all out there, outside you, in the great collective “depressed.”
MY TRUTH, YOUR TRUTH...
Even our idea of honesty is
not our own, and this idea, as much as any other, is changing. Can an ad that
guarantees you’ll lose weight by taking a pill be honest when the pill doesn’t
work. We don’t call this dishonest advertising. However, Truth has become
harder to define. In the past, a truth had an accuracy of 100%. Now, we credit
the claims of people (and companies) even if they’re proven accurate only 10%
of the time and erroneous 90%. The subtle shift in definition is accepted when
the collective authorizes it, most often by the media. I won’t get into
politicians, but if you’ve been following the news, you know our leaders lose
little if any respect when caught in a lie. As long as whatever is proposed
contains 1% of truth, it can be defended as being “true.” The media treats all
allegations, even untruths, with respect, as if there is no definable truth.
In the past, before the
heavy hand of the media came upon us, there was some flexibility in concepts,
especially those of happiness and personal beauty. But the fetters get ever
tighter. Can I be happy without facebook or a new car? Can I be beautiful if my
teeth aren’t straight? If my lips are thin? If my ears poke out? If only the
answer were “yes.”
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